What kept me away

It has been a while since the last time I was here to post.  I have been working on a project to help my friends and anyone else that I can.  The project is currently being called the "Once a Week Challenge."  I am putting together a bunch of ideas to help spice things up and bring couples back together in their intimacy.  Currently it is a bunch of ideas just thrown together, but I will organize them all so they will be easy to access.  My goal is to have a booklet that can be read through and then each week flip through for specific ideas to help the couples improve their relationship.  It will have tips and techniques, romantic ideas and ideas for spicing things up such as role playing.

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Wonderful Tips!!

When she pulls away, pull her back

When you see her start crying just hold her and don’t say a word

When you see her walking, sneak up and hug her waist from behind

When she’s scared, protect her

When she steals your favorite hoodie, let her wear it

When she grabs at yours hand, hold her’s and play with her fingers

When she tells you a secret, keep it safe and untold

When she looks at you in your eyes, don’t look away until she does

When she’s mad, hug her tight and don’t let go

When she says she’s okay, don’t believe it

Treat her like she’s all that matters to you

Kiss her in the pouring rain

When she runs up to you crying, the first thing you say is :”whose butt am I kicking baby?”

Ladies, this apply to him as well!

Valentines Day

Valentines day is just around the corner.  What are you planning for you and your partner?

I know there is tons of emphasis on buying flowers, jewels, chocolates and such, but let's not forget that there are lots of things that we can do for each other that don't cost a lot of money.  How about cooking your partners favorite meal?  Is there a position that your partner has been wanting to try?  How about a massage, whether it leads to something else or is just for the sake of a massage. 

This day is the perfect opportunity to step it up a bit and do a little extra.  I am sure there are very few women out there that would not appreciate their partner taking the role of dishwasher for the night.  I am also pretty sure there would be few men that wouldn't appreciate a little oral gratification.

Turn your imagination loose and see what fun you can come up with.

Have you ever....?

Have you ever had a moment, when you are frustrated with something your partner did?  How long do you let that moment hang onto you? 

I know that I have been there.  The difference, as I learn and grow, is that now I don't let myself stay in that moment for long at all.  Every moment in our life is precious.  We can't get them back.  I am doing my very best to remind myself of that daily and to treasure all those precious moments.  When I have a moment that is less flattering, I try to find a better outlook on things and find something that makes me feel good. 

The more of these good moments that I find, the easier it is to find them and the more there are to be found. 

Now, instead of watching TV from different chairs, we spend more time snuggled up together while we enjoy our favorite show or movie.  It is amazing to me that I let many, many moments like this slip away without enjoying the intimacy of snuggling up on the couch together like we did when we were first together. We hold hands, share those moments together and make certain that we not only are a loving couple, but behave like a loving couple as well. 

I want my children to grown up seeing what appropriate public displays of affection look like.  I want them to have high expectations of what a marriage should be.   I want them to know how to communicate well and be happy. 

For all these reasons and a thousand more, I find the opportunity to share my love and find all those positive moments and opportunities that I used to let slip on by.

Are you letting them slip by?

Benefits of Sex

So, I have been doing a little bit of research and thought I would share some of my findings.  Here is a list of benefits of sex in marriage;

• Lower mortality rates.
• Reduced risk of prostate cancer.
• Improves posture.
• Boosts self esteem.
• Makes a person feel younger.
• Firms tummy and buttocks.
• Keeps spouses connected emotionally.
• Offers pain-relief.
• Gives people a positive attitude on life.
• Reduced risk of heart disease.
• Makes a person more calm.
• Improves fitness level.
• Makes a person less irritable.
• Reduced depression.
• Improved sense of smell.
• Has a therapeutic effect on immune system.
• Better bladder control.
• Relieves menstrual cramps.
• Helps people sleep better.
• Improves digestion.
• Healthier teeth.
• Helps folks remember more.
• Produces chemicals in the brain to stimulate the growth of new dendrites.
• Lowers the level of cortisol, a hormone that can trigger fatigue and cravings.
• Lowers feelings of insecurity.
• Increases level of commitment.
• Less-frequent colds and flu.
• It can help people achieve weight loss since about 200 calories are burned during 30 minutes of active sex.
• Studies are also showing that it is a myth that abstinence can sharpen a person's competitive edge.

Seeing is believing

Sight is the fifth sense that I would like to explore.  This is part of why I wanted you to create a sanctuary for you and your partner.  Seeing a place that is free of clutter and filled with wonderful textures, scents, flavors and sounds, helps to set the mood. 

Clothing can play into our visual stimulation as well.  Why do you think lingerie is so popular?  Not that you have to choose lingerie, just something that makes you feel good.  Remember that this is not a contest with the latest cover girl, just an opportunity for you to feel sexy.   It could be something as simple as a suit that you feel powerful in, or sexy underwear under your everyday clothes.  Ladies, you may even want to wear your husbands shirt with nothing underneath.  There is a million different things you can do, again, only limited by your imagination. 

Soft lighting, such as candles, is a great way to set the mood.  It also is a more flattering light for those of you who may be a bit more self conscious.

If you have music playing in the background, let your body flow with it.  This is the perfect opportunity to perform a little dance for your partner.  It is up to you how bold you are, whether you just glide around a bit with soft movements (a feather boa would be a great prop) or go for a full on striptease.  This is the perfect opportunity to do a little role playing!!

Take a little time to explore.  Let your eyes wander over your partners body.  Notice the color of their skin, the texture.  Compliment your partner on what pleases you about their body.

Keep it fun and positive and let the moment flow!  Immerse yourself in your senses and enjoy the experience!