Dodson and Ross on the Ideal Clit Process

This is an informative video.  Betty has been doing this work for many years and has a lot of great information that she shares.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VCWE858VxQ0&list=UURO3FMd3Bg-VTHgraBujKHA

Baggage, are you ready to lighten the load?

Have you ever wondered why there are people that only seem happy when things are going haywire and they have something to complain about.  Well I read an article that talked about how the brain actually releases endorphins in response to negative emotions.  It is kinda like when you stub your toe, it feels bad, but your brain releases chemicals to make you feel better.  These chemicals give you that feel good feeling, which is as addictive as drugs. 


My journey has been creating a more positive life, with more positive things flowing to me.  I have had to make a conscious effort to retrain myself since much of the conditioning leaned toward negative beliefs.  "Money doesn't grow on trees."  "Life is not fair."  I am sure you have heard these or many other statements like them. 

I made a decision to leave that heavy bag full of limiting beliefs, past hurts, and all sorts of negative crap, instead of dragging it along with me.  It is extremely freeing to quit hauling all that junk.  I am not going to say that I don't stumble and fall back into a pattern of letting some of those limiting beliefs back in.  Years of pattern are not changed over night.  However, I make every effort to keep these limiting beliefs out of my existence and bring more positive into its place.

One of the biggest and most simple ways to move into the positive, is to be grateful for things.  Gratitude focuses on the positive things in your life instead of the negative.  Each turn toward a more positive feeling will help to bring more positive to you.  It is a simple law of attraction that like attracts like.   Some examples that we can all be grateful for, since you are reading this you must be alive, is this it is a new day and you are alive.  The past is now in the past and the choices we make from this moment on will be creating a new future.  Stay in the moment and find those things to be grateful for, both large and small.

Another way to have a positive impact is to smile.  Smiles have an impact on others as well as your own brain.  You can actually trick your brain into releasing feel good chemicals and help to release negative emotions when you smile.  Even just placing a pencil in your mouth and engaging those same muscles you use when you smile, will cause your brain to believe you are smiling for real.  Your smile could be just the thing that changes another persons whole day. 

Most of us have some baggage from our past.  Some have a tiny little clutch purse size and others drag a train of large luggage along with them.  I encourage you to try opening your hand and letting go.  You can always go back and pick it back up, if you feel you must.  We all choose our own paths.  I believe that if you really give yourself a chance to move on in your life without the load of crap that you have been dragging, you will not want to continue to haul such a heavy load.  Life flows so much easier when you are not weighed down by all the stuff that is not really serving you. 

So what is the risk of letting it go?  You may feel a bit uncomfortable but you can always choose to crawl back into your comfort zone. Just remember that what is uncomfortable now, will soon become part of your comfort zone.  You can take a baby step outside that comfort zone, wait and let that get comfortable and then take another baby step.  The lion doesn't eat the elephant whole, just one bite at a time.  Let yourself begin your new journey with one step at a time.

What would the benefits be?  You lighten your burden.  You give yourself the opportunity to let more positive into your life.  You free yourself to experience with a fresh perspective.  Limitless potential.  Hmm, sounds good to me.

All the benefits far outweigh the risks in my mind.  I will definitely be continuing along this path of releasing the negative load and turning into the flow of positive gifts that life has to offer.

What is your choice?

What would it take for ______________ to happen?

We all have dreams and desires.  What would it take for those desires to come about?

Sometimes it seems that our dreams are too far from our reach.  So I encourage you to ask yourself, "what would it take for my dreams to come true?" 

Begin by visualizing your dream.  What does it look like being in that dream?
What does it feel like, living this dream?
What can I do now, to put me a step closer to this dream?
Is there something that you need to learn to get closer to your dream?
What can you do in this moment?


Take that first small step toward your dream.  This first step is often the most difficult, often because we fear "losing" the dream or not being deserving of our dream.  Box that fear up and give it to the angels.  Fill yourself with love instead, fear cannot live where love resides.


Don't compare your dream to others, we all have our perfect dream for us and we are all deserving of our own personal dream.   It is created just for us and is meant for us alone.

So dream big, and start with those small steps on your way to your dream.

Time for a BAB- Body Appreciating Bath

Every day we see ads telling us to buy diet plans, anti-aging creams and such.  We are never thin enough, pretty enough, rich enough, or perfect enough in some other persons thinking.  It is no wonder that so many of us are so critical about ourselves.

I say it is high time that we begin a routine of appreciation.  One of the easiest ways that I have found to appreciate my body, is during a bath. 

Now I have always been a shower person myself and have a hard time relaxing in the bath.  My mind was always racing, thinking about other things that I should be doing, like taking a moment to enjoy myself and relax was not allowed or a waste of time or something, how ridiculous.  Recently though, I have began a routine of taking a bath before some of my showers.  I fill my tub with warm water and some wonderfully scented bath salts.  I climb in and lay back and focus on my breathing.  I plug my ears so the sound of my breathing is amplified and focus on taking slow and deep breaths.  I was a bit surprised at first at how relaxed I could get by focusing on my breathing in the tub. 

Once I am relaxed I begin my body appreciation routine.  Remember that this is about appreciation and not a time to criticize.  I start with my feet, but you can start any place you choose.  I thank my feet for carrying my body through the day, allowing me to walk and stand.  I thank my legs for being strong, allowing me to walk, run, ride a bike or a horse.  I think my glutes for aiding in my movement and for a comfy way to sit.  I think my belly for carrying my children.  I can even thank my fat for insulating me against the cold.  No part of your body is wrong or bad, it just is.  Every part of us has a job to do and we should be thankful for those jobs that it does.  Our lungs breathe, our hearts pump the life sustaining blood and nutrients.  The list goes on and on.  Take a moment to appreciate each part of your body.

Appreciation is a blessed thing.  The more that we appreciate things within and around us, the more there will be to appreciate.

Lets all make a point to appreciate our body, beginning with at least once a week and working up to daily.  Appreciation is the beginning to a wonderful path of self love and to the abundance that many of us desire.

That old familiar shirt

I have seen it happen again and again.  People cling to the past like putting on an old comfy shirt.  It doesn't always look the best, but it feels familiar, so we go back to it time and time again.

We have all experienced hurts in our past, where we felt out of control of what was happening.  We found anger, or a place to hide.  When situations in our present occur, many times we will grab that emotion from our past, like that old familiar shirt.  Even though it isn't the best option, it doesn't feel as scary as the unknown. 

How often have you seen someone strike out at another, with their rage and harsh words?  I know that I have seen it time and time again.  They reach into their past, grab that familiar old feeling, and lash out at those around them.

Why?  Because it is easier to strike out and hurt them before they can hurt us. 

Does it do any good?  Most of the time, it just causes more harm, leading to more situations similar like those first ones that gave rise to those negative emotions. 

It is hard to open yourself up and be vulnerable.  You could get your feelings hurt but hey, don't you think that striking out at those around you is doing that anyway.  In addition to hurting the others, you are separating yourself from those that can help you to overcome the past hurts and live a more positive and free life.

So here is my challenge to you all.  The next time you feel someone is not living up to your expectations, are wronging or hurting you, leave that old familiar shirt in the past.  Take a deep breath and open yourself up to the potential for a more positive outcome.

Communicate in a calmer manner and let the person know that you are hurting.  Don't jump into the rage, or hide away like a victim.  It will take a lot of effort to begin with, but the benefits far outweigh the risks.

If you are on the receiving end of the strike, this may be the time to grab the offender in a great big bear hug and tell them that you know they are hurting and you are here for them.

Imagine how much nicer things would be if we all reached out to each other with love, rather than rage and hate.  I know that I would prefer the former. 

Remember that we have all faced difficult times and situations.  We can be a positive force that will help others to move past the pain and into a much more pleasant place to exist.

Set a good example, follow this more positive path, and others will follow.

Role play idea--handyman

 The only limitation to role playing is your imagination and the willingness of your partner.  Here is a "handyman" scenario.

The handyman knocks on your door.  He is dressed in well fitting jeans and a snug t-shirt.  A tool belt hangs low on his hips, drawing your eyes from the muscles in his upper body.  After slowly checking him out, you escort him inside and show him what needs worked on.

You could play this as he must fix a terrible leak under your sink (or other repair duty).  As he begins to work, you admire the way his muscles flex with each movement as he completes the repairs.  Once he is done, you inform him that you have no cash to pay him.  Now come the negotiations.  What can you do for him to compensate for his handy work? In this scenario, the handyman will be in charge of directing the actions to be taken.

Another option would be that your body, rather than the house, has things that need worked on.  It will be your job to direct him to all the areas that need extra attention and what kind of attention they need. 

Of course you can switch it up, where there is a handy-woman that will be coming to the aid of the "not-so-handy gentleman."

Let your imagination flow and remember to have fun!

over-stimulated and desensitized?

Life today is so busy and there is so much stimulation, many of us have learned to tune things out just to be able to cope with it all.  Computers, cell phones and hectic lives have all played a part in this.  These things are great tools at times, but other times they become one more thing that pulls us from our partners, our own inner peace and the ability to be in the moment.

Try setting aside a bit of time each day where you step away from the technology and the chaos and truly unwind and be in the moment. 

Plan a date with your partner where you will devote a specific amount of time, say 20 minutes at least, where you will focus on stimulation of a pleasant nature.   A sensual massage is a great tool for this exercise.  Spend time using different intensities of pressure, caresses to firm pressure.  Stimulate every part of the body, not just the areas that you commonly gravitate to.  Really focus on what you are feeling and the differences in the kinds of touch.  Take turns giving and receiving, being totally present in that moment. 

Music can be a helpful tool to tune out some of the noise that bombards us.  Instrumental is best due to lack of vocal stimulation.  Listen to the music, let it keep one portion of your brain distracted, so you can notice a bit of nature.

Notice the patterns of color in the bark of the tree.  See how the breeze moves the branches and the leaves.  Watch a bird or butterfly, how they move and float on the air currents. 

These little things are so often missed and they are truly miracles, each and every one.

When we learn to tune into these subtleties, instead of tuning them out, we will automatically put ourselves into the flow of nature and of the universe.  Positive things will begin to flow more into your life when you notice and appreciate all the miracles.