Incentive to share

Is your partner a bit hesitant to share with you, be it fantasies or other information about intimacy?  Here is an idea to help to open them up. 

Offer to remove on item of clothing for each fantasy.  This could also be used for coaxing information about different hot spots, techniques, or special requests.

Thanks Cass!

Holiday Season

I hope everyone is having a wonderful holiday season! 

We are having a Pleasure Party on New Years Eve at Galloway's Irish Pub on CY Ave. in Casper, WY.  I hope we have a good turn out for this party.  Sable and Melba Cuzins, the authors of the Wyoming Kama Sutra books, will be co-hosting this party with me.  Every time the two of them get together, there is bound to be a lot of laughs and fun.  Combine the three of us and my husband, it is sure to be a hoot.

Any of the guys who would like a man's opinion or assistance, Brent would be glad to be of assistance. 

Do you have New Year's resolutions in mind yet?  Is your relationship in need of a little spice?  We have many ideas that we will be sharing with you throughout 2013.  Stay tuned for the ideas that we will be sharing.  If you have ideas that you would like to share, or would like more information on a specific topic we have covered or topic that you would like us to cover, please feel free to email aplaceforpassion@gmail.com. 

Many thanks for all the followers of this blog, the online store (aplaceforpassion.com) and our facebook page.  Best wishes for us all!

fun toy (for couples too)

I would like to share one of the products that is great for use individually as well as for the couple.  This is a g-spot vibrator that is both slim and smooth.  It is angled for g-spot stimulation and has other fun uses as well.

Certain positions will be easier to use this vibe in than others.  It can be slid between the couple for some clitoral or labia stimulation during intercourse in the  missionary position.  (The slim design allows for more comfort than the thicker models and the smooth texture allows it to be easily slid into position with just a bit of lube for extra ease.)  In reverse cowgirl, the woman has easy access to stimulating the testicles and perineum.  This is also a handy vibe for stimulating the clitoris during cunnilingus.

There is a variety of other ways to enjoy this toy, so let your creativity flow a bit.  Always remember to communicate, be safe and have fun.

http://aplaceforpassion.com/product/Harmony_Slim_G_Vibrator_7-inch_-_Black_/0/DJ0915-03

The perfect marriage of vibrations, sensations and unparalleled pleasure. This new waterproof and multi-speed addition to the Harmony collection will help you find pure bliss and satisfaction. The long reach and curved head of the Slim G (7 inches) will reach your g-spot with ease and comfort. Slim G uses 2 AAA batteries (not included).

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More video info

If you are looking for more information on g-spot stimulation, I have found a page on youtube with several videos.

http://www.youtube.com/user/GSpotSecrets

This video has information about how to find the g-spot as well as a bit of information about preparation before finding the g-spot.  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aZ27HkEAiQM&feature=plcp

This video has 4 tips that guys should know.  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2WW2AtrQ9VI

This video has information about sex toys for g-spot stimulation.  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uh14s1SUG_o&feature=plcp

Dr. Oz on Female G-Spots and Orgasms - Ask Oprah's All Stars - Oprah Win...

Looking for information about how to find the g-spot and orgasms?  Here is a video with Dr. Oz, showing you just that. 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b03oZ2PfP24

Holidays

During the busy season it is easy to get wrapped up in all the hustle and bustle and forget about the little things that can mean so much.  There can also be a lot of stress during the holidays, from a wide variety of sources.  It is really easy to become overwhelmed with all we feel we need to do. 

I think it is vital that we set aside a bit of time to so that we can relax and release the stress.  Set your alarm clock for 10 minutes earlier and spend those extra minutes meditating, praying, listening to your favorite music or enjoy a bit longer and more relaxing shower.  Just a few minutes extra in the morning can ease the rushed feeling that many of us experience.

Take a bit of time in the evening, turn off the TV and computer and instead visit with your children, partner or a friend.  Really focus on the conversation that you are having, rather than half listening as you are multitasking.  This is a great way to really connect with others and strengthen your relationships.

Since it is the holiday season, let it be a reminder to be thankful for the things you have.  Your health, friends, family, home, job or the clothing on your back, I am sure you can find something to be thankful for, after all you are alive.

While you are at it, and it is the season for giving, give a little of yourself to another.  Brighten a strangers day with a smile, you never know how much of an impact that little action can have.  Take that extra minute to look at the cashier, waiter, or whoever you may encounter, smile and wish them a happy holiday. (with meaning, not just saying it because it is expected) 

Doing something for others is a great way to help us feel good about ourselves.  I encourage these actions on a daily basis, not just during the holidays.

off and running

Things have been pretty busy, getting the business started and getting my information out to others.  The two parties went very well and I am looking forward to doing many more.  The ladies home party went pretty much how I expected.  The couples party at Four Aces was very different from the home party.  It was more like a fair or expo type situation where people came through at different times and checked everything out.  I think they were both a success and look forward to doing more parties.  I am open to a variety of parties, so if you are interested in one please give me a call.  Since I am running my own business, I am not limited like some of the other companies doing these types of parties.

I would like to thank all the people that have been helping me to get my business off the ground.  The support, encouragement and all the word of mouth has been wonderful and I greatly appreciate it all.

Home party ready

I placed an order so I would have a sampling of products available to demonstrate at home parties.  I am now ready to begin, so if you are interested in hosting a party, email me at aplaceforpassion@gmail.com.  I can either do the parties with just A Place For Passion products, or we can add the Wyoming Kama Sutra Cuzins in for a duo party. Either way, it is sure to be tons of fun and educational as well.

For those of you who haven't explored my site, check out aplaceforpassion.com and see what a wide variety of items I have for sale. A Place For Passion has everything from lingerie and wigs, to massage oils, bath products, costumes, fetish gear, bachelorette party goods, candles, vibrators, masturbators, lotions, lubes, novelty items, games, books, and much, much more.

 Those that aren't familiar with Wyoming Kama Sutra, you can check them out at wyomingkamasutra.com.  Sable and Melba Cuzins have simplified the kama sutra so the average person can understand and enjoy.  It is an educational and funny series of books. 

We have our first party scheduled for November 10, 2012, weather permitting.  It will be in Glenrock, so any of you that are in the area that would like to drop in and check it all out, please let me know.

A Place For Passion online store

I am thrilled that I have finally got the online store up and running.  So far I think it is looking great and I invite you all to come visit and see all the exciting products that we carry. 

I will be featuring products here periodically, so please stay tuned.

(I am doing a little happy dance right now, this has been quite the journey out of my comfort zone.)

A Place For Passion Home Parties

As a part of my new business, I will be doing A Place For Passion home parties.  If any of you would be interested in participating in one of these parties, please email me at aplaceforpassion@gmail.com.  We can also include Sable and Melva Cuzins and their Wyoming Kama Sutra books as a part of these parties.  You can pretty much guarantee it will be a good time for all with lots of fun products available to help ignite the passion or keep the flames of passion alive.

Taking a big step

I am currently in process of starting a new business venture.  I think the only thing left to do is to build the website.  This is a major step outside of my comfort zone and I have high hopes that it will be successful.   Once the website is finished the store will include everything from lingerie and wigs, to massage oils, bath products, costumes, fetish gear, bachelorette party goods, candles, vibrators, masturbators, lotions, lubes, novelty items, games, books, and many more items.
  

Tantra chair

Through my wanderings I found some information on the tantra chair.  It is an attractive piece of furniture with a variety of uses.  It is great for yoga, aiding in supporting your body, allowing you to stretch into difficult positions with more ease.  It is also a handy tool for sex.  It supports the body and allows you to shift positions with ease.  Many positions that will cause your muscles to tire quickly in bed are made much easier with this chair. 

It is amazing, when your body is supported, how much you can relax and really enjoy the moment.

I found a lovely tantra chair at tantrachair.com.  Since I had no experience with such a piece of furniture, I was hesitant to spend that amount of money ($1299).  After some more research, I was able to find a similar chair on Amazon.  This one has a price that I could wrap my head around.  For less than $350 including the shipping and handling, I was able to purchase one of these chairs for my husband and I to try.  My chair arrived on my front step a few days after my purchase, in a plain cardboard box.  It does require the feet to be attached to the chair, but this was accomplished in a short amount of time and with little effort.  The cheaper model did not have the color options and I am sure is not the same quality as the more expensive model, however it is sturdy, comfortable, attractive and easy to clean.

This chair supports the body, putting less strain on areas such as the back, neck and arms.  I don't know about you, but when I am on top for a length of time, my wrists and elbows will be stiff afterwards.  I have had none of that stiffness with this chair.

It also puts you in a nice position for watching your partner and enables you to be close without the tension it would cause on a bed to sit upward.  No worries about pillows slipping or trying to get them into the right position.  

It is very easy to change position or shift the angle just a bit or a lot, depending on what suits you personally. 
This chair provides the support so those of us that are not gymnasts or body builders can perform well in a wide variety of positions. 

I am glad I purchased this chair and would recommend it, or others styles like it, to others as well.

Open mind

What a wonderful thing an open mind is.  I have encountered a few people lately that were rather close minded about several topics.  In light of these interactions, I have gained a higher appreciation for those with an open mind. 

There is so much out in this grand world that many of us don't get much exposure to.  The open mind will explore the information before making any kind of judgement.  It is so refreshing to deal with others with an open mind.

I know that there is a massive amount of information that I have yet to explore.  I try to keep an open mind and gain knowledge about new topics before I write them off. 

I am thankful that my husband has an open mind about many things.  We have done a lot of growing and exploring over the years and having a willing partner for this exploration has made the ride a lot more enjoyable.

Fabulous read

I have recently found a wonderful little book that I would like to share with you.  It is called "Wyoming Kama Sutra."  It is written in a very lighthearted way, making it easy to read and not likely to be as intimidating for the shy or the beginners.  This book even has illustrations (in stick figure form) for those that prefer a visual guide. 

The authors had a booth at a fair recently and the reactions they got were definitely a sight to see.  While there was an occasional person that was too embarrassed by the topic to explore further, the majority of the people were delighted by this gem.  Much laughter surrounded their booth over the weekend.

Please check out this book at: http://wyomingkamasutra.com/  The website will give you an idea of how the authors approached this topic in this book. 

I think this would make a wonderful gift for weddings, anniversaries, and even for the secret Santa with a bit of a humorous side.  Enjoy!!

Validation/Appreciation

The CEO bringing home millions, to the sanitation engineer, to the stay-at-home mom, raising the next generation with no monetary compensation, every person and every job is equally important.  We all need to know that the things we do are appreciated.  We are programmed with a desire to feel we are doing well, that we are needed and wanted.  So I ask you, are you validating those around you and are you being validated?

Every contribution has a place and makes an impact on those around us.  Some people look down on those in lower positions of status, those making less money or doing the dirty job that others avoid like the plague.  Just remember, if these people were not performing these duties, you would have to.  Take a moment to thank them for all they do.  It may just put a smile on their face or brighten their day.

If you have not been taking a moment to appreciate others contributions, it is never too late to begin. People that feel appreciated for their contributions will be more inclined to continue to contribute.  Those that don't feel appreciated will eventually find other sources for appreciation. 

Book Review

I have spent some time reading a few books and I would like to share my thoughts about one of these books.

"Men Made Easy" by Kara Oh

This book has a lot of information that I feel could be helpful to many women.  Some women may already know the information in the book but I think there are a great many women that will find the information helpful. Some women may have no clue about the information included in this book and if they were to read it and practice what they learn, it could be very beneficial to many aspects of their lives.

The key idea in this book is "feminine grace."  It is something that may have lost some emphasis in our lives now days, but is a wonderful tool to advance not only our partnerships at home but also in our daily lives.

I encourage you to borrow this book from the library, a friend or just go ahead and purchase a copy for yourself.  Go ahead and try the information on for size and maybe even share it with your friends.

It begins with you.  You can't change others but you can change you.  The changes that you make in you will create a ripple effect that impact others around you.  It is incredible to see how these changes happen.

Happy Reading!!

sexual mind

A guys point of view on women's bodies

I just had to share this video with you all.  There is so much emphasis on our physical image and so many of us are so critical about our bodies.  This video really speaks up about this.  It is about a hour long, but worth the watch.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DecyhijQkcw&feature=youtu.be

Beauty

The grass is greener on the other side illusion

Remember when you were dating?  We spent so much effort putting our best foot forward.  We take care to be well groomed and pleasant to be around.  When you live with someone and deal with the day to day stresses, the best foot tends to get forgotten in the closet. 

It is so easy, when you are with a person day after day and deal with all issues that adult life has to offer, to let the little things begin to annoy us.  We now are seeing the whole person, not just all the positive things.  Little comments made without thought, laundry left on the floor or any of the other thousands of little things that can pile up and cause friction.  All of these things are really trivial and small in the broad scope but sometime we gravitate toward this little irritations and focus on them rather than letting them go and finding the positives to cling to. 

I have seen it happen many times, when there are issues in a relationship, an eye will begin to wander a bit.  It is easy to look at someone outside and see all the positive traits.  Let me tell you though, if you were living with that person every day, you would begin to notice their negatives as well.   This is where we are responsible for what we see and must change our perspective.

In the beginning it will take conscious effort to change this perspective and let the small stuff be swept away and forgiven.  Creating a more positive outlook on things and finding the little pleasantries that we have let blur over is a must.

Noticing and appreciating the good things and releasing the not so good, will change a great many things.

Taking control of how you view the world and what you choose to focus on feels great.  Initially it may be a little difficult, but like anything else, with practice it just gets easier and easier, until one day it is just second nature.  Every morning set the intention to find some lovely little thing.  Maybe it is a bird, or a flower, whatever it is, ask to find it and you will begin to notice.

We can use this in our relationships as well.  Find those happy little moments.  It may be small at first, but you will find them more and more as you go along.  We can also create these moments for our partner.  Take that first step and reach out to them.  Say I love you at a moment that is not expected, like maybe while cooking.  If your partner is standing at the stove cooking, gently caress across their back.  These little things that were so abundant in the courting stage are wonderful to carry on throughout your lifetime.  They make both partners involved feel good and appreciated.

Compliment your partner, whether it is some physical trait or something they do well.  Once again this is where a little stroking the ego can be very beneficial.

Every day find a silver lining.  I guarantee you that if you are alive, and I am pretty sure if you are reading this that you are, you have something to be thankful for.  Be thankful you woke up this morning, after all, if you are awake, you are still alive.

As you focus on the positive, you will begin to notice that the grass on your side is getting greener and greener with every passing day.  What a wonderful gift that is.

Love Notes

Before all the technological advances that we have access to today, people used to send each other love letters.  Some may still write letters to their partner but there are many that just don't have the time or don't feel that they are creative enough to write a lovely prose. 

We now have access to things like email and text messaging to share intimate moments while we are away from our partner.  I also think that post it notes are a simple and wonderful tool.

It is up to you whether you choose to leave a romantic note, uplifting quote or an explicit bit of foreplay for the mind.  These little notes can be left in a lunch box or briefcase for your partner to find later.  Coat pockets, or pants pockets with a kind little pat to follow as he/she walks out the door are great ways to share yourself with your partner.  You could also stick one to his/her steering wheel for him/her to find before he/she drives to work.  All of these little thoughts you have placed for your partner to find are going to play on his/her mind all day long, talk about a nice way to build the anticipation.  These notes can have a great impact on a person's outlook on their day, turning a bad day around and giving your partner a reason to smile.

These little notes are great for the children as well.  It is a little like giving them a hug even when you can't be with them.

Are you doing this daily?

Every day we should be doing things that will strengthen our relationship.  Do you tell your partner that you love them every day?  How many times a day?  Each one of us should be expressing our love and affection to our partner every day, many times a day.  You never know when something could happen and you never have the opportunity to tell your partner, ever again. 

Do you kiss your partner every morning before you leave for work or errands?  What if you got into a car accident and didn’t come home?  Kiss your partner often, not just when you are looking for something more to happen.  I guarantee that if you kiss your partner with passion and anything were to happen to you, they will remember that kiss and hold it close to their heart for years to come.

Do you touch your partner, caress, hold hands and hug?  Every day, all throughout the day, you should be sharing simple little touches of affection.  There are all kinds of touches that are appropriate for any location.  Place your hand on the small of her back as you walk through a door.  Hold hands while you walk from your car to your destination.  Hug your partner from behind while they are preparing a meal or doing the dishes.  Little things like this, with no strings attached, help to strengthen the bond between a couple.

Sexy mind, focused mind

Our biggest sex organ is our mind.  Your brain can create wonderful fantasies and detailed images.  It can also be the glitch that throws a wrench in the works.  Our minds are often focused on the stresses of our daily life.  What to prepare for dinner, when the bills are due and the latest project at work are just a few possible thoughts that run through our minds. 

We can train our brains to be in the moment, enjoying every bit of what is going on here and now.  The first key is to take a moment to relax.  A bath, a walk or a meditation are all great ways to get this started.   The second key is to learn to refocus your mind.  Each time your mind wanders away from the current moment, bring back your attention to something specific that is right in front of you.  For instance you are taking a walk through a park.  If your mind begins to wander off to thoughts about a work project, take a moment to focus on specific details about the path you are walking on or plants that are near.  This may even mean stopping and really giving your undivided attention to a bush or flower.  Notice the color and textures.   As you practice redirecting your mind it will become easier to remain in the moment.  Meditation is a wonderful tool for both relaxing and focusing the mind.

Often times, especially with women, our minds wander away from the moment and pull our attention and energy away from intimate moments with our partner.  Learning to refocus and quiet the chatter in our minds will help us to be in the moment and really enjoy all the wonderful sensations.  If your mind does wander while you are in an intimate moment there are two really good options to bring your mind back to the intimacy.  First would be to redirect  your mind with focus on something specific.  This could be your partners lips, chest or arm muscles flexing or any action that you enjoy watching.  Another option would be to focus your mind on a memory or fantasy about an intimate moment. 

I know this is much easier said than done, but with practice your mind will learn to be more in the moment and refocus quickly when it does wander off.  Trust me, the time and effort you put into training your mind to be in the moment will pay off big time.  When you are able to keep your mind from wandering and really focus on all the sensations that you may have been missing, your potential for mind blowing intimacy is increased exponentially. 

This will improve many other portions of your life as well.  You will be more in tune to your family, friends, work and may notice many things that you have let slip by each day unnoticed.  When you are completely focused and in the moment, performance in all areas will greatly improve.

Intimate discussion primers

For those who are a little unsure how to approach an intimate subject, leaving clues can be an awesome way to create the opportunity to explore.  Magazines, books and even websites contain lots of information for those that are willing to take a little time to search it out.  Leaving a web browser open with a website that you would like your partner to explore, as long as the kids won’t have access to it, is one way to leave your partner a clue.  Pages in a book or magazine that have been marked or highlighted are another good way.  Leaving clues like this is a great way to spark a bit of conversation about something you may be interested in.  Whether it is something you have not done before that you would like to try or a specific topic that you would like your partner to explore more.  For those who are a little unsure how to approach a subject, leaving clues can be an awesome way to create the opportunity to explore.

 

Red Riding Hood Adventure

Here is a fun idea to add a little variety and spice to your sex life.  A twist on the fairy tale that most of us know.

One twist would be for innocent Red to arrive at grandma's house to find the naughty wolf.  The wolf will take his own sweet time, giving Red a lesson she won't soon forget.  "What big teeth you have"...."the better to eat you with" will take on a whole new meaning.  After the wolf has lavished some attention on Red, she won't be hoping for the woodsman to arrive any time soon.

Another twist on this would be a naughty Red, dressed in just heels and her red hooded cape.  Red can tie up that bad wolf and torture him with her special kind of torture.  Just how much can that big, bad wolf take before he is begging for release?

Just remember to have fun with your fantasy!

Research

Wow, I have been doing a lot of research.  There is a lot of information out there for those that have the time to go looking.  I have found some information that is helpful and getting closer to what I am really looking for, but the search is far from over.  I have a long way to go to find all the information that I am seeking, but I am determined to keep searching to get all the information that I desire.

I am really digging deep into my research and trying to find all the information that I can that will help all who are seeking.  Cross your fingers that my searches will lead me directly to the information that I am searching for so I have the best information to share.

I have also been contemplating doing some groups sharing sessions.  I think that talking with others and finding out what information they are looking for as well as sharing stories of success and failures, will be helpful in providing the most complete information that I can.

What kept me away

It has been a while since the last time I was here to post.  I have been working on a project to help my friends and anyone else that I can.  The project is currently being called the "Once a Week Challenge."  I am putting together a bunch of ideas to help spice things up and bring couples back together in their intimacy.  Currently it is a bunch of ideas just thrown together, but I will organize them all so they will be easy to access.  My goal is to have a booklet that can be read through and then each week flip through for specific ideas to help the couples improve their relationship.  It will have tips and techniques, romantic ideas and ideas for spicing things up such as role playing.

Interesting video

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Wonderful Tips!!

When she pulls away, pull her back

When you see her start crying just hold her and don’t say a word

When you see her walking, sneak up and hug her waist from behind

When she’s scared, protect her

When she steals your favorite hoodie, let her wear it

When she grabs at yours hand, hold her’s and play with her fingers

When she tells you a secret, keep it safe and untold

When she looks at you in your eyes, don’t look away until she does

When she’s mad, hug her tight and don’t let go

When she says she’s okay, don’t believe it

Treat her like she’s all that matters to you

Kiss her in the pouring rain

When she runs up to you crying, the first thing you say is :”whose butt am I kicking baby?”

Ladies, this apply to him as well!

Valentines Day

Valentines day is just around the corner.  What are you planning for you and your partner?

I know there is tons of emphasis on buying flowers, jewels, chocolates and such, but let's not forget that there are lots of things that we can do for each other that don't cost a lot of money.  How about cooking your partners favorite meal?  Is there a position that your partner has been wanting to try?  How about a massage, whether it leads to something else or is just for the sake of a massage. 

This day is the perfect opportunity to step it up a bit and do a little extra.  I am sure there are very few women out there that would not appreciate their partner taking the role of dishwasher for the night.  I am also pretty sure there would be few men that wouldn't appreciate a little oral gratification.

Turn your imagination loose and see what fun you can come up with.

Have you ever....?

Have you ever had a moment, when you are frustrated with something your partner did?  How long do you let that moment hang onto you? 

I know that I have been there.  The difference, as I learn and grow, is that now I don't let myself stay in that moment for long at all.  Every moment in our life is precious.  We can't get them back.  I am doing my very best to remind myself of that daily and to treasure all those precious moments.  When I have a moment that is less flattering, I try to find a better outlook on things and find something that makes me feel good. 

The more of these good moments that I find, the easier it is to find them and the more there are to be found. 

Now, instead of watching TV from different chairs, we spend more time snuggled up together while we enjoy our favorite show or movie.  It is amazing to me that I let many, many moments like this slip away without enjoying the intimacy of snuggling up on the couch together like we did when we were first together. We hold hands, share those moments together and make certain that we not only are a loving couple, but behave like a loving couple as well. 

I want my children to grown up seeing what appropriate public displays of affection look like.  I want them to have high expectations of what a marriage should be.   I want them to know how to communicate well and be happy. 

For all these reasons and a thousand more, I find the opportunity to share my love and find all those positive moments and opportunities that I used to let slip on by.

Are you letting them slip by?

Benefits of Sex

So, I have been doing a little bit of research and thought I would share some of my findings.  Here is a list of benefits of sex in marriage;

• Lower mortality rates.
• Reduced risk of prostate cancer.
• Improves posture.
• Boosts self esteem.
• Makes a person feel younger.
• Firms tummy and buttocks.
• Keeps spouses connected emotionally.
• Offers pain-relief.
• Gives people a positive attitude on life.
• Reduced risk of heart disease.
• Makes a person more calm.
• Improves fitness level.
• Makes a person less irritable.
• Reduced depression.
• Improved sense of smell.
• Has a therapeutic effect on immune system.
• Better bladder control.
• Relieves menstrual cramps.
• Helps people sleep better.
• Improves digestion.
• Healthier teeth.
• Helps folks remember more.
• Produces chemicals in the brain to stimulate the growth of new dendrites.
• Lowers the level of cortisol, a hormone that can trigger fatigue and cravings.
• Lowers feelings of insecurity.
• Increases level of commitment.
• Less-frequent colds and flu.
• It can help people achieve weight loss since about 200 calories are burned during 30 minutes of active sex.
• Studies are also showing that it is a myth that abstinence can sharpen a person's competitive edge.

Seeing is believing

Sight is the fifth sense that I would like to explore.  This is part of why I wanted you to create a sanctuary for you and your partner.  Seeing a place that is free of clutter and filled with wonderful textures, scents, flavors and sounds, helps to set the mood. 

Clothing can play into our visual stimulation as well.  Why do you think lingerie is so popular?  Not that you have to choose lingerie, just something that makes you feel good.  Remember that this is not a contest with the latest cover girl, just an opportunity for you to feel sexy.   It could be something as simple as a suit that you feel powerful in, or sexy underwear under your everyday clothes.  Ladies, you may even want to wear your husbands shirt with nothing underneath.  There is a million different things you can do, again, only limited by your imagination. 

Soft lighting, such as candles, is a great way to set the mood.  It also is a more flattering light for those of you who may be a bit more self conscious.

If you have music playing in the background, let your body flow with it.  This is the perfect opportunity to perform a little dance for your partner.  It is up to you how bold you are, whether you just glide around a bit with soft movements (a feather boa would be a great prop) or go for a full on striptease.  This is the perfect opportunity to do a little role playing!!

Take a little time to explore.  Let your eyes wander over your partners body.  Notice the color of their skin, the texture.  Compliment your partner on what pleases you about their body.

Keep it fun and positive and let the moment flow!  Immerse yourself in your senses and enjoy the experience!

Flavor!

Se we have now covered touch, smell and sound, so lets explore taste.  The act of sharing flavors with your partner can be very intimate.  There are many wonderful flavors to explore with each other.

I invite you to arrange for a quite evening for just the couple.  Think about flavors that you enjoy and bring them together for a exciting adventure.  Finger foods are a great way to play with seduction.  Take your time and savor the flavors and the experience.  Feed your partner and notice how they react.  Do they savor the flavor slowly or with great hunger?

If you would like, you can sample flavors from your partners body.  Whipped cream and chocolate syrup are two of the obvious choices, but the options are only limited by your imagination.  What does your favorite drink taste like when drizzled over your partners chest?

There are a lot of flavored oils, creams, gels and powders on the market today.  A little something to cover any preference of flavor.  Coconut oil, that we talked about before, is one flavor that remains in my bedroom.  The range of useful properties that it has, makes it a staple for us.  What other items can be brought into your bedroom to heighten your experience?

My goal here is to bring all of our senses into play with our partner.  Think about the difference of watching a movie on a simple TV without surround sound.  Now think about how a movie sounds in a theater, with all the sounds surrounding you, coming from all directions and making you feel like you are in the movie.  This is the experience I hope to help you bring to your relationship.  A complete experience that excites all your senses and amplifies your passion.

Fun challenge

I encourage you to try this out and see if you experience a difference.  Next time you are intimate with your partner, take a moment while they are caressing or teasing you to just lay back.  What do you feel when you are letting your partner pleasure you?  Now, while your partner is caressing and teasing you, engage yourself, touch them or stroke their hair.  What do you feel now?  Is there a difference in how you feel when you are allowing them to perform all the activity vs. when you are also engaged in passionate play?

I encourage you to share your experiences with us.  You may share anonymously if you would like.  After we receive some comments, I will share my own experiences.  (I don't want to influence anyone else's experience by sharing before you have a chance to try this yourself)

I hear you!

Lets talk about sound and the impact it can have in your bedroom.  We can start with the most basic idea that many will probably come up with, bringing music into our sanctuary.  The type of music that sets the mood will vary with the couple, but music has a strong impact on mood.  Just try a sampling and see what impact it has with you.  How does the music impact the movement of your body?  Does it impact your mood?  This is a great way to help clear your mind of the daily clutter and allow your mind to drift with the music and free you to be in the moment.  Music can also help to block out sounds from outside your intimate setting.  Also useful if you would like to buffer the sounds that you may make from prying little ears, or maybe bigger ears.

Sounds are definitely not limited to music.  The sounds that each of us make, plays a major role in our partnerships.  What we say and how we say it has a profound effect on our partner and how they respond to us.  The same phrase spoken in an intimate whisper will have a much different effect than that phrase shouted across the room.  Want a little dirty talk added to your repertoire?

Remember that intimate situations open us up to a certain level of vulnerability.  Because of this, we should make every effort to keep our communication positive.  "I like how this feels" or "I would like a little faster or slower" are more appropriate than "that isn't doing anything for me" or "are you done yet?"  
 
Words are not the only sounds that can stimulate a little passion.  A sigh, gasp or soft moan can speak volumes to your partner about what brings you pleasure.  Set yourself free and allow yourself to share these intimate sounds with your partner.  It is all up to you whether you softly sigh or shout it from the treetops.  Let instinct guide you a little here.

Oh the aroma

Today I want to focus on your sense of smell.  Take a moment to smell the aromas in your bedroom.  Are they appealing to you?

First off, lets make sure all the less appealing scents are removed.  If you have laundry in your room, for example, take a moment to remove it.  Sweaty socks is not my idea of the most appealing scent for the bedroom. 

We have a wonderful opportunity here to explore some tantalizing scents.  There is a multitude of scented candles out there to choose from.  Aromatic oils, potpourri and incense are also good ways to incorporate scents into our bedroom.   The variety of scented products for the couple has grown immensely.  Powders, creams and erotic oils and gels come in a wide variety, from fruity to chocolate and many, many more.

Please take note of what you and your partner enjoy.  The bedroom is shared so we want the aromas to be enjoyed by both parties involved.

I also want you to consider your own scent for a moment.  Scented bath oils are one way to give yourself a pleasant and soft aroma.  Lets remember that we don't want to overdo a scent here.  Some people are more sensitive to perfumes and such, so lets be sure it is enjoyable for our partner as well.  I would also like to point out that not all aromatics that we use on our body will have a pleasant taste to them as well.  To create the most relaxed situation, try products that not only smell good but taste good as well.

I encourage you to explore the wonderful world of smell.

another great quote

"Only passions, great passions, can elevate the soul to great things."  ~ Denis Diderot

quote for the day

"Never underestimate the power of passion." ~ Eve Sawyer

What is your bedroom?

Is it a place to sleep only?  A place to watch TV?  Is it a sanctuary for the couple to retreat to and enjoy each others company?

I would like to express how important it is for your bedroom be a sanctuary for the couple.  Keeping the spark of passion in our relationship takes a little help.  It isn't something that just happens.  There are many things we can do to create a wonderful place for the couple to retreat away from the complications of daily life and focus on romance, intimacy and exploration of each other.  (if you have children, I do recommend a lock on your door, just in case)

Today I am going to talk about touch.  Think about the textures that make you feel good and sexy.  Fabrics are an easy way to incorporate texture into your sanctuary.  Silk, satin, feathers and furs are all lovely examples of texture.  How many textures are currently in your room?  How many are conducive to romance?

It is time to find some of these wonderful feeling things and bring them into our bedroom for a little adult playtime.  Why should the kids have all the fun? We don't have to spend a lot of money, unless of course you want to.  Just remember that we are focusing on touch and how different things feel. I invite you to close your eyes and spend some time just feeling the things around you.

While you are at it, this gives you a wonderful opportunity to spend some time touching and exploring your partner.  Are you brave enough to take turns blindfolded and exploring your partner, paying close attention to the sensation of touch?

This would be a perfect opportunity to bring the coconut oil that I posted about earlier into play.   Vary your touch as you explore, using soft caresses or a little more firm touch.  Use different parts of your body to experience touch.  Your fingers shouldn't be the only thing getting to experience touch.  Your lips, your nose, and your tongue, just to name a few, let your imagination get away with you a bit here.  How does this make you feel?  How does it make your partner feel?  This gives you a wonderful opportunity to express to your partner how different touches feel, which ones you enjoy and to encourage them to share their experience with you.

quotes for the day

"If sex is such a natural phenomenon, how come there are so many books on how to?"  ~Bette Midler

"Many people think of lovemaking as intercourse but real sexual union, as taught by Kama Sutra and other ancient texts, begins long before penetration."  ~The Modern Kama Sutra by Kamini and Kirk Thomas

Idea for the day

I encourage you to do a little something extra for your partner today.  Just something simple, such as a smile, a kind word, a touch or honest compliment.  See what impact that has on that person and how it effects the rest of the day.  These simple little things have tremendous power.

If you are needing a little assistance with ideas to get you started, here are a few hints.

If you partner is reading a book, slip a little note inside.

If your partner does something that you like, let them know you are grateful for that.

Send your partner a text, letting them know you love them and are thinking about them right at that moment.

If there is a special treat that your partner likes, such as chocolate or maybe a mint, leave one on their pillow or slip some into their lunch with a note letting them know that you appreciate them.

Offer to give your partner a massage, with no strings attached.

Just remember that you don't have to spend a lot, if any, to have a great impact.  Your partner will appreciate that you took the time to do a little something for them.

Fun Prop

I would like to share with you a product to bring into the bedroom.  Organic coconut oil can be purchased in many grocery stores as well as health food stores.  It is often a solid but liquifies at approximately 76 degrees.  It is not just for the kitchen any more.

This is a wonderful tool for the couple.  It has a nice fragrance and pleasant taste, as long as you like coconut.  It makes a great massage oil and a wonderful lubricant.  It is readily absorbed by the skin and being all natural, it is good for you and your body.

Give it a try and let us know what you think of this fun idea.

quote for the day

Passion is universal humanity.  Without it religion, history, romance and art would be useless.  ~Honoré de Balzac

Lovely quote

The spaces between our fingers were created so another's could fill them.

And so it begins.......

I recently got a call from a very close friend.  She has been married for 5 years and the intimacy in her relationship has waned, especially since she has a toddler running around.  She had talked to some of her other married friends, hoping for some advice, and found that they too were in a similar situation. 

Another friend has only been married for a year.  At a time when many are still enjoying the honeymoon phase, she is having complications with her partner. 

Yet another friend has been married 30 years and her children have grown.  She is in a new stage of her relationship, learning to be a couple again without children consuming most of her time.

I decided that while I am helping these friends, I would also like to make myself available to others who may be in similar situations or dealing with other relationship issues.

Even in the happiest of marriages, the passion can sometimes dwindle.  This can impact areas outside of the bedroom. 

The goal we hope to achieve for this blog is a safe haven to express your concerns or difficulties, where you will not be judged.  We hope to provide you with ideas to help rekindle your passions for life and each other. 

Our mind is our greatest sex organ, so be sure to give it the attention it deserves.  We hope you will join us for this journey into the world of passion.