role play idea: Dr. and nurse or Dr. and patient

Some people are blessed with a vibrant imagination.  They are able to come up with all kinds of new and interesting thoughts and ideas on a whim.  Others love a little assistance in the imagination area.  For those that would like a little primer for their imagination, here are a few possibilities for role play.

One partner will play the doctor and the other the nurse, or assistant of some sort, for this example we will use nurse.  Costumes are handy to amp up the play a bit, but if props are not available, you can improvise.  One example would be a clipboard or a notebook could be a patient's chart.

The nurse could come out to inform the doctor what symptoms the next patient is complaining about.  At this point this could play out with either the doctor or the nurse being the initiator.

If the nurse initiates, the nurse could walk up to the doctor, caress the lapels between their fingers, admiring the chest, while teasing the senses and informing the doctor of the patient's needs.  Maybe the nurses needs are more important than the patient's at this point and the nurse pulls the doctor into another room so the doctor can provide much needed aid.

If the doctor is the initiator, perhaps the doctor will overstep the boundary of what is normally considered  appropriate behavior for a superior.  Suggestive comments, "inappropriate touches" and requirements of extra duties in order to maintain employment could be used in this role play.

You could also use this basic idea except with a doctor and a patient.  Maybe the patient doesn't have any money to pay for services to be rendered, but willing to provide a service of their own to compensate.  This could play out as the suggestion coming from either the patient or from the doctor.

Perhaps the patient is not suffering from any illness or pain at all, just looking to connect with an attractive doctor.

Perhaps the recommended treatment for what is ailing the patient is not a pill, but a much more intimate type of medicine.

Let's not forget that either sex can play the role of the doctor in this scenario.  No need to limit yourself to gender based thinking.  

The possibilities are many, from the vanilla side of things to BDSM.  The choice is yours.  These are just a few ideas that may spark a little idea that can be fanned into flames of passion.

There is a multitude of fun costumes that can be worn for role play.  Here are several nurse costume options http://aplaceforpassion.com/sc/Costumes/Nurse

The art of the ask

Some people seem to be born with the ability to ask for what they want.  Others, well they have a harder time asking for things.  I am one of the others and I am working on improving the art of the ask.

It can be something as simple as asking for a little assistance with a task that you are trying to complete.  For me, asking always seemed to be like admitting that I was not good enough or something to accomplish it on my own.  What a crock that story was that I was telling myself.

Asking for assistance or for what you want is not a sign of weakness, it is a sign that you are.  You know those sayings, "two heads are better than one" and "work smarter not harder" well, they have been around a long time for a reason. 


If you would like assistance with a task, rather than running an internal dialogue about how you have to do this by yourself, nobody will offer to help, blah, blah, blah, just speak up.  How are others supposed to know what is going on in your head?  Are they just supposed to "see" that you need assistance?  How silly is that thinking?

When you would like some help, politely ask someone for a little bit of assistance.  You will be a lot happier when you share the responsibility rather than playing the victim and being angry because you had to do it all yourself.  For your own sake, learn the art of the ask.

When you are dealing with an intimate moment, and you are thinking that you would love it if your partner would do something different, ask.  Don't get in the rut of wishing for things to be different but not speaking up about it. 

The key would be in how you ask for what you want.  Doing it in a positive manner is the key.  Don't let it come out like "don't do it like that, I don't like that" but rather something like "a little to the left and slower please, oh yeah, just like that." 

Learning the art of the ask can help to relieve many of the potential irritations or stresses in our lives, each and every day.  Make it a habit to ask, even when you just want a little company to perform a task.

sandpaper hands no more

Ladies, I am sure you all can understand where I am coming from with this topic, and men can appreciate it as well.  When hands are rough, dry and cracked, they are the right texture for scratching a back, but not a good combo for intimacy. Those lovely caresses soon become grating and irritating, not what you are wanting when you are trying to turn your partner on.

My husband works outside and with a lot of water.  He has struggled with with trying to keep the moisture in his hands for a long time.  We have tried tons of lotions, creams and even tried vaseline at night with gloves on, with little or no success. In order to aid in comfort during intimacy, latex or nitrile gloves became a go-to tool.

Finally, I found a solution.  I purchased a lotion made by Earthly Body. http://aplaceforpassion.com/product/Skinny_Dip_Hemp_Seed_Hand_And_Body_Lotion_-_8_oz./0/EB-HS021  (this is the skinny dip scent  which is vanilla/cotton candy scent)

In less than two weeks, the difference in my husband's hands is amazing.  He only applies it once or twice a day and goodbye gloves, hello nice hands.  He still has callouses so he is able to do his work with ease, but they are now smooth and the cracking and bleeding and the roughness is gone.  A caress is actually a caress again rather than abrasion.

I wash my hands often during the day and my hands were looking dry and older than my years.  I was applying lotions 7-10 times a day.  Now I am only applying the Hemp Seed Hand and Body Lotion maybe twice a day and my hands look so much younger and stay soft much longer.

I am so impressed with this product that I just had to share this information with others.  In addition to the benefits in our skin condition, it is a natural, made with hemp seed oil and natural botanicals.   It also comes in a variety of scents.

The cost of this lotion, when compared by usage with the other lotions I have tried, is by far the best value.  I invite you all to try this for yourself and let me know what you think.

Initiating

There are so many levels that are possible to initiating intimacy.  Some people are bold, stating clearly, exactly what they desire.  Some people are extremely subtle, just snuggling up, hugging, or holding hands can be a way to express interest in the possibility.  This can be so subtle that the receiver does not even realize that this is in fact, the person initiating.  When the person who has initiated, in this subtle way, gets less of a response than is desired, this can be seen as a rejection.

The bold partner may be thinking that they are the only one to initiate, even though both people have put in the effort, just in different ways.

It is important to open these lines of communication so the possibility of confusion can be eliminated.

Key phrases can be agreed upon by the couple as a signal that one is interested in the possibility.  These phrases can be about a completely unrelated subject, allowing the couple to have a secret signal that can be used, even in the presence of others. 

This could be a fun way to create anticipation, especially when you are at a public gathering and unable to leave immediately.  (Unless you are brave enough to sneak off to the rest room or other secret location together for a quickie)