Our biggest sex organ is our mind. Your brain can create wonderful fantasies and detailed images. It can also be the glitch that throws a wrench in the works. Our minds are often focused on the stresses of our daily life. What to prepare for dinner, when the bills are due and the latest project at work are just a few possible thoughts that run through our minds.
We can train our brains to be in the moment, enjoying every bit of what is going on here and now. The first key is to take a moment to relax. A bath, a walk or a meditation are all great ways to get this started. The second key is to learn to refocus your mind. Each time your mind wanders away from the current moment, bring back your attention to something specific that is right in front of you. For instance you are taking a walk through a park. If your mind begins to wander off to thoughts about a work project, take a moment to focus on specific details about the path you are walking on or plants that are near. This may even mean stopping and really giving your undivided attention to a bush or flower. Notice the color and textures. As you practice redirecting your mind it will become easier to remain in the moment. Meditation is a wonderful tool for both relaxing and focusing the mind.
Often times, especially with women, our minds wander away from the moment and pull our attention and energy away from intimate moments with our partner. Learning to refocus and quiet the chatter in our minds will help us to be in the moment and really enjoy all the wonderful sensations. If your mind does wander while you are in an intimate moment there are two really good options to bring your mind back to the intimacy. First would be to redirect your mind with focus on something specific. This could be your partners lips, chest or arm muscles flexing or any action that you enjoy watching. Another option would be to focus your mind on a memory or fantasy about an intimate moment.
I know this is much easier said than done, but with practice your mind will learn to be more in the moment and refocus quickly when it does wander off. Trust me, the time and effort you put into training your mind to be in the moment will pay off big time. When you are able to keep your mind from wandering and really focus on all the sensations that you may have been missing, your potential for mind blowing intimacy is increased exponentially.
This will improve many other portions of your life as well. You will be more in tune to your family, friends, work and may notice many things that you have let slip by each day unnoticed. When you are completely focused and in the moment, performance in all areas will greatly improve.
About Me
- Passion Pair
- I would like to welcome you to this blog and let you know a bit about me. My name is Christina and I am not a therapist or other "expert" on sex and relationships. I am simply a woman who loves life, love, intimacy, romance and sex. I believe that life is all about never-ending learning and exploration. I am a wife and mother who has discovered through her experiences, a crystal clear understanding of what is truly important and maybe more importantly, what is not. I have been married since 1994 and have children ranging from 7 years old to 21 years old. I have found ways to maintain a happy marriage and passionate sex life with my husband, all while raising a family, managing finances and daily stresses and even overcoming more than one life threatening situation. I have often been the "go to" person for friends, who expressed admiration for my relationship with my partner and family and seek the same for their lives. One of my best friends, Bonnie, often collaborates with me on topics. Together we would like to invite you to join us on a journey to find a place for passion in all aspects of life.
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